“The true measure of a man is how he treats someone who can do him absolutely no good.” – Samuel Johnson
Givers look out for the interest of others.
Takers look out for their own interests.
Givers help others grow.
Takers see themselves as better than others.
Givers lookout for the team.
“People who choose giving as their primary reciprocity style end up reaping rewards.” – Adam M. Grant
Givers spread success to the team.
Takers push only for personal success.
Givers make a good impression down the chain of command.
Takers make a good impression up the chain of command.
Givers make others look good.
Takers make others look bad.
“Givers are willing to work harder and longer than takers and matchers. Even when practice is no longer enjoyable, givers continue exerting effort out of a sense of responsibility to their team.” – Adam M. Grant
Givers empower and add energy.
Takers drain and make others weary.
Givers believe in self-sacrifice.
Takers believe in sacrificing others.
Givers are transparent.
Takers paint a picture of perfection.
As leaders none of us is perfect, but we need to model the desired behaviors and be responsible for what we want others to become.
Here are three quick tips to being a giving leader:
Be sacrificial – Sacrifice starts at the top before making its way down the chain of command. Leaders model sacrifice by starting with themselves. Be willing to sacrifice to make sure your staff are taken care of and the team has what it needs.
Be aware and meet needs – Within the reach of your leadership are needs to be addressed. Leaders must work at being aware of those needs and then must put the effort into solving them. As this happens, it creates an environment where others will follow suit, creating a giving spirit in the organization.
Focus on the right ideas – The right idea is more important than being right and good leaders insure the team knows this. Give your team the freedom to stomp out the need for ego and identities, and empower them to pursuit and debate the right ideas. Great ideas come from discussion, debate, and even good ol’ fashion arguing. Ensure that “being right” gets stomped out, and let the best ideas win.
“Take care of the man, he will take care of the ministry.” – Mike Calhoun
Many of ideas and thoughts mentioned above come from the great book:
Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success by Adam M. Grant Ph.D.
It is the kind of book every great leader needs to read to grow their leadership.
You can get the book from Amazon HERE
Using the comments section below, what other Givers vs Takers thoughts can you share?
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